Exclusive: Leaked LGBTQ Training Video From Andy Stanley’s Church Reveals Shocking Instructions
A leaked small group training video from North Point Community Church shows a church ministry director instructing small group leaders to use affirming language with transgender tweens and teens, advising them to use their new names and personal pronouns because if everyone else in that child’s life is affirming them, “we cannot be the last place a (trans) student feels comfortable.”
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Britt Kitchen is the multi-campus director for Transit. In this environment, middle school students (6th–8th grades) “gather to explore their relationship with Christ and others” through the use of “games, music, teaching, and guided small group discussion.”
We were recently sent several of Transit’s training videos, including their 2025 LGBTQ Leader Training featuring Kitchen speaking to small group leaders establishing policies and best practices for LGBTQ kids between the ages of 11 and 14.
Notably, North Point Community Church, under the approving eye of lead pastor Andy Stanley, has been embroiled in a series of related scandals for years, with pastors and ministry leaders routinely promoting and promoting gay-affirming LGBTQ ministries and ideologies.
A few examples include:
Debbie Causey is a long-tenured North Point Community Church pastor and the director of their Care network of ministries. Years ago, after her son came out as gay, she wrote the book The Big Reveal: Loving Your LGBTQ+ Child While Strengthening Your Faith, which details her experiences handling her son’s revelations. Prominent gay activist Justin Lee wrote the forward of her book, and she has his endorsement on her website.
Causey speaks at pro-LGBTQ+ events such as Q Christian Fellowships and has been one of the primary drivers of LGBTQ acceptance in the church. In fact, she and other leaders at North Point are board members of a pro-LGBTQ+ activist and advocacy group called Renovus, which seeks to promote and reinforce LGBTQ-Christianity as fully integrable into the body of Christ.
The Care Network has nine ministries under it, including financial mentorship, divorce recovery, premarital mentorship, crisis response, and especially, Parent Connect.
Where did Parent Connect come from? Amy Blakeslee, the recently departed Director of Parent Connect, explains the origins in her Q Conference bio.
Hello! My name is Amy. I identify as gay, my pronouns are she/her, and I’m the proud parent of three adult kids, one of whom also identifies as gay. Over the past ten years I had the privilege of meeting with hundreds of parents of LGBTQ+ children through my position on the Care staff at North Point Community Church. As more and more parents reached out to the church for support, I began meeting with them in their homes. Parent Connect was birthed, one of the first church-based ministries in the nation created specifically for Christian parents of LGBTQ+ kids.
Parent Connect exists to “inspire parents of LGBTQ+ children to follow Jesus by providing a safe environment where they can experience community and personal growth.” This is done through a series of meetings, get-togethers, mentorship, and curriculum studies with parents and their gay or trans kids. Recently, they had Queer Eye for the Straight Guy icon Mama Tammye in as a guest speaker and teacher.
As part of Parent Connect, North Point Church frequently partners with Embracing the Journey ministry, making it an integral part of her curriculum. According to Causey, they refer all out-of-state inquiries to them, and it has their unreserved support.
Embracing the Journey ministry is run by Greg and Lynn McDonald. They are a husband and wife team who are both long-term members at North Point, as well as leaders in Parent Connect. The church recommends it as a trusted resource for congregants wishing to find answers and advice when their child comes out as LBGTQ+, along with navigating the emotional and spiritual complexities that the news brings.
While Embracing the Journey is unreservedly recommended by Parent Connect, many at North Point would be shocked to learn that it is an openly “affirming” pro-LBGTQ+ ministry and routinely partners with aggressive pro-LBGTQ activist organizations like The Reformation Project, which seek to advance full LGBTQ+ inclusion in the church.
Furthermore, all their resources are affirming, including books on why the church is wrong to condemn homosexuality, why the bible does not condemn homosexuality, and why queerness is a gift, not a sin. They teach children to love and accept themselves for who they are, because their sexual identity will never change. Like Debbie Causey, Greg McDonald was also previously a member of Renovus.
They’re the ones who hosted the recent Embracing the Journey conference two years ago, which featured nearly all gay-affirming speakers, including two gay men ‘married’ to other men, and which we covertly attended.
Furthermore in a conversation about her book, Causey was once asked about recommendations for a “safe” counselors for LGBTQ teens, which is a coded word they use to describe affirming counselors. She recommended an organization called ‘The Christian Closet,’ which she describes as a “great group” specifically designed for children and youth struggling with their identity, and McDonald agrees.
Leaders from Andy Stanley's church refer Christan children struggling with their sexual identities, wondering if maybe they're gay, to a collective of open, affirming, all-LBGTQ counselors. See the story at https://t.co/dinJnUfdSb pic.twitter.com/byRGsSX3gb
— Protestia (@Protestia) January 29, 2023
The Christian Closet is a collective of all-LGBTQ+ Christian counselors that offer virtual mental help on topics like depression, coming out, transitioning, starting your first queer relationship, deconstructing, dealing with trauma, and everything in between. It’s “an online therapeutic resource for people who are trying to work out what it means to have a LGBTQI sexual identity, or gender identity within a Christian context.”
This is not to say that some of the counselors are gay or that a majority are gay, but rather that all of them are gay.
Their website reads:
It’s a rare thing to find a therapist who personally understands the intersections of faith with sexual and gender identity. When most people find us they exclaim with relief “In finding TCC, I’ve found a needle-in-a-haystack.” When you choose a Christian Closet therapist, you don’t have to choose between someone who gets your faith or sexual orientation. That is why all of our clinicians identify somewhere on the LGBTQ+ spectrum and have done the work of reconciling their faith with that.
We’ve profiled one of the counselors here, who happens to be a pro-choice co-pastor of The Quest Church, and who recently married a man after being married to and divorcing his wife of 23 years.
What a horrific place to send a confused child struggling with their sexuality.
Lastly, we’ve also covered compromise by North Point Community Church in our article Celebrating Transgenderism?! North Point Church Staffers Rejoice After Man Comes Out as Woman, where after a young man from the church came out as a “transgender woman,” the post was liked by nearly a dozen North Point church leaders, including by whoever is running the church’s Instagram page.
We also noted the downgrade in our post North Point Church Baptizes Openly Transgender’ Man’, After Giving Blessing to Transition“, which details the church’s efforts to baptize and affirm a transgender man, and in our posts:
- Gay-Affirming North Point Church Leader Cheers As She’s Given Lap Dance by Drag Queen
- Andy Stanley Tells ‘Unconditional Conference’ Attendees That Scriptures Against Homosexuality Were About ‘Serial Sexual Relationships’
- Andy Stanley Tells ‘Unconditional Conference’ Attendees He REFUSES to Say ‘Homosexuality is a Sin’
With that established, we see a training video featuring Kitchen discussing “how to best care for all of your students, including students who would identify as LGBTQ+” and “create a safe place for your group to talk about anything, including sexual integrity.”
On the topic of sexual integrity for both straight and LGBTQ teens, Kitchen says there are “just three big ideas under the umbrella of sexual integrity we want to communicate consistently.” These are:
- Honor God with your body.
- Don’t be mastered by anything.
- Don’t sexualize a relationship outside of marriage.
If the students can abide by these, they’ll be ok, with Kitchen offering:
We’re just going to start challenging students, ‘hey, when it comes to the area of sexual integrity, when it comes to these guidelines, can you live with integrity on these three guidelines just for the next year?’…That seems to be much more helpful goal for our students.
Given these parameters, two gay teens at North Point Church could date each other and still abide by their conditions for godly relationships. Kitchen later notes:
If our goal is that our student ministry should be the safest place to talk about anything, we have to ask, are we really okay with the idea that every student is welcome at our church? Are we really sure that you want every student feeling comfortable coming to our church? And we’ve decided here at this church that yes, we are comfortable with that. That we do want to be the safest place for every student to talk about anything.
One of the rules they have for interacting with LGBTQ teens is not to label a student, such as reinforcing the idea that they’re gay. Instead, they instruct leaders to use the language of “same-sex attracted” because the student’s gender might be fluid, and they don’t want to reinforce the students with language that suggests permanency if things change down the road.
While that may sound reasonable, the remainder of the video is not. Speaking of kids between the ages of 11-14 experiencing gender dysphoria, Kitchen offers, “Our goal in these situations is to best support the student and the family” and that “Our goal is to first understand where a student is in their journey.”
Supporting them involves affirming them in their dysphoria, with Kitchen condemning a church that did not.
Now, through the years, we’ve gotten to know several families. There’s one family in particular that’s very helpful for me. Their journey first started when their student was five years old. So it was before any of the middle school hormones of what’s going on could even take place.
And these parents handled it so well and took every step so slowly. This family first started going to a child psychologist and seeing a medical specialist. There were times they started using different pronouns at home, but only at home. They were not using these pronouns in school. They weren’t even asking an extended family to use those pronouns yet. They weren’t asking friends to do it yet.
Then a big step was to pick a new name from the other gender so they could start using that. But once again, only the new name around the home.
And they can start wearing different clothing, first, just one day a week, once again, only at the home. The next big step was going to the extended family, the grandparents, the aunts, the uncles, the cousins to say, ‘hey, will you start using this name and these pronouns for our child?’
Now, somewhere along the way, medical intervention started for this student. If we’re talking about something in middle school, more than likely, medical injections are going to be about stopping puberty as opposed to having a surgery. That will probably come later in life. It would be just a matter of, ‘hey, let’s slow down or stop puberty from even starting for this child.’
Now at this point, the next big thing that’s gonna happen is them starting to ask the public to start using a different set of pronouns and a different name. They finally go to the school system, ask them to start using those different pronouns.
And what eventually happened was the school system, the family, the extended family, were all using different name and pronouns for this child, but their local church would not do it.
Their local church said, ‘nah, because we’ve known him since he was a little boy, we’re not gonna start saying “her”. So not here, not at our church. We’ve known you too long to be able to do that.’
And so everywhere this child went in life, they were saying you were one thing, but only at church, they had to pretend to be something else. And they had to leave that church, and they finally came here, started talking to our care ministry staff, and we realized, ‘oh my goodness, we cannot be the last place a student feels comfortable. That’s the opposite of our goal for church, is to be the last place you feel comfortable talking about anything.’
Given the trajectory of North Point Community Church, this doesn’t surprise us at all.
A compendium of LGBTQ compromise from North Point Community Church and its leaders:
North Point Leader Recommends All-LGBTQ+ Queer Counselling Collective For Struggling Gay Kids
North Point Pastor Recommends Struggling Christians Attend ‘Queer Parent Summit’
North Point Church Is Sending Children to All-LGBTQ Therapists: We Profile One of The Counselors
Video: Gay-Affirming North Point Church Leader Cheers As She’s Given Lap Dance by Drag Queen
Celebrating Transgenderism?! North Point Church Staffers Rejoice After Man Comes Out as WomanDr. Michael Brown Says He’s Spent 8 Years Exchanging Texts and Emails with Andy Stanley, Who Has REFUSED to Condemn Homosexuality
Andy Stanley’s Church Hosts and Promotes Pro-LBGTQ+ Ministry
Audio: Gay North Point Church Leader Says Andy Stanley Affirmed Him in His Homosexuality
Stanley’s Children Ministry Overrun and Led by Pro-LBGTQ+ Activists
Did a Pastor at Andy Stanley’s Church Just Out Him as Gay-Affirming?! Read the Excerpts
Contemporaneous Text Messages from 2019 Support Gay-Affirming Charges Against Andy Stanley
North Point Church Staffers Found ‘Liking’ Pride Parade Celebration
ALMOST ALL Speakers at Andy Stanley’s Upcoming ‘Christian’ Conference are LGBTQ+ Affirming!
North Point Pastor Praises Gay Man’s Affirming Org. ‘Lord, Let Him Create More Allies for the LGBTQ Community’
Andy Stanley’s Children Ministry Overrun and Led by Pro-LBGTQ+ Activists
Surprise Surprise, Another North Point Church Leader is Gay-Affirming and Wildly Liberal
North Point Church Baptizes Openly Transgender ‘Man’, After Giving Blessing to Transition?
Another One?! Gay-Affirming North Point Church Leader Hosted Same-Sex Wedding Reception
North Point Pastor Tells People Not to Attend Her Church Because It’s Not Affirming and ‘Safe’ Enough
Unconditional Conference: Andy Stanley Says Attending a Gay Wedding is ‘Good Theology’+ Disses Rosaria Butterfield
Exclusive: Andy Stanley Tells ‘Unconditional Conference’ Attendees That Scriptures Against Homosexuality Were About ‘Serial Sexual Relationships’
Andy Stanley Tells ‘Unconditional Conference’ Attendees He REFUSES to Say ‘Homosexuality is a Sin’
‘Unconditional Conference’ Speaker Teaches Christians Must Adopt a ‘New Script’ Where Homosexuality ISN’T Sinful
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For the most part, Charles Stanley stayed Biblically accurate and rightly divided the Word throughout his ministry. How Andy Stanley could so depart from Biblical truth can only be compared to God choosing Isaac and rejecting Esau.
what does “rightly divided the Word throughout his ministry” mean?
“Rightly dividing (or past tense divided) the Word” means to have the doctrines your teaching line up with the teachings and spirit of the Bible. This phrase comes from 2 Timothy 2:15 in the King James Bible. If you don’t know or believe the basic doctrines and teachings of the Bible then you fall for into massive error as this article so effectively describes. This church/ministry has Ichabod written across its doorposts. If you don’t know what that means, check out 1Samuel 4:21. The correct response to “gender dysphoria” (which btw doesn’t exist… it’s a spiritual problem solved through spiritual means) is to pray with this person in Jesus’ name asking him to release them from their spiritual bondage. You don’t EVER make a person feel comfortable in their sin if you truly care about them and are concerned about where they’re going to spend eternity. Shame shame shame on this so-called church… they are ALL lost and blinded!
Has Andy Stanley come out yet or is he still in the closet? And does his mom know he’s gay?
“feels comfortable”? Where is that in Scripture? Comfort is great, provided it is in the right context, and done in the right way. As has been said: God afflicts the comfortable and comforts the afflicted.
“Feels comfortable “ is one of those leftist buzz phrases like “too controversial “ that they use to hide the truth and muddy the water. Such people are wolves in sheep’s clothing that the devil uses to do his work on earth. They are spineless sodomites and predators who prey on children by telling them lies.
It was just a few short steps from the time when women started wearing pants instead of dresses to present. Now almost everybody is confused about gender identity.
the vast majority of men are gay, they hate women and are jealous of them..
Only a nation of gay men will allow women to have the right to vote. Heterosexual nations will not allow women to rule over them like that. So I have to agree with you, most men are gay. Just look at all the YouTube videos of women complaining that they found out after years of marriage that their husband has been on the DL (Down Low) all this time. But that’s what happens when women are liberated. They no longer act subordinate to their husbands, so their husband just goes somewhere else. No, it ain’t right, but that’s how it goes and the queers got it started. I really don’t see any way to fix a nation of homosexuals other than maybe some nukes from Russia or one of Americas other enemies.
They want this agenda because they want to uckf everybody they can that goes against male/female agenda of GOD. This is a satanic gathering of these demon controlled huemans. Stay away.
Stanley is a heretic and this is a new level of evil, even for him. The damage being perpetrated on these naive and often emotionally unstable children is criminal. The parents should be afraid as when these kids mature and are faced with a life full of physical pain, medications, sterility, and possible asexual function, there will be more than mere verbal accusations. I’m expecting some familial homicides and suicides.
The explosion of gender dysphoria is a crafted pys-op by the same people who claim we shouldn’t own cars or eat any animal protein to save the planet. These three letter acronym folks want a NeoFeudalism where there are two classes- the elite and a few peasants. Breeding of serfs most be controlled. Sterilizing your child gets social outrage, but call it gender affirming surgery, and you can sterilize all day.
Think of the bigger picture – why is a man suddenly not a man or vice-versa? Because removing this fact annihilates the unique design of the male or female bodies/brains; we’re just a template to be stamped. God planned nothing unique in His creation, it’s all the roulette of evolution.
When near future AI takes its major controls on society, the next issue is what does it mean to be a human? Are sentient robots equal to humans with similar rights? Or what if the Crisper DNA splicing leads to a real life Dr. Moreau? Is a mouse that has 50% human genes a mouse or a human ? If a person has a baboon heart and lungs from a transplant do they remain a human or become something else? Blurring the lines has physical, societal, and divine consequences.
This is the utopia Satan wants to create. As foretold in the Bible, the progressive, heretical church is becoming an agent of these goals.
may they all rot in hell.