Pastor John Gray Makes TMI Remarks About His Sex Life
John Gray is the lead co-pastor of LoveStory Church (formerly Relentless Church), a non-denominational megachurch in Greenville, SC. He is perhaps best known for wearing expensive clothing, making the news for one controversy after another, and being the center of multiple cheating scandals over many years.
While these infidelity scandals invariably see him tearing up in front of his congregation for his indiscretions and asking for forgiveness, they, in turn, have become mostly used to it and unbothered by it at this point.
He recently appeared on the fifth-anniversary episode of the Dear Future Wifey podcast along with his wife and co-pastor, Aventer Gray, where he performatively sought to scrounge up some pity by pointing to his childhood trauma as the impetus for his inability to be faithful and keep his hands and his heart to himself.
How something is fired in you is how it’s wired in you. So the reason why conversation is my demon is because that’s how I started learning about sexuality. If I had learned about sexuality through sex, then we would be having a different conversation. But it was never sex that I wanted. I wanted understanding. I wanted intimacy, But when I realized that I felt unworthy to be married to her and I felt like a complete failure, I started having conversations with people who made me feel that way.
He insists that he only did it because he couldn’t love himself, and that he wanted to kill himself for his actions, which in this context seems like a means to manipulate and garner sympathy.
I was not blindsided by people going to blogs (to head about his infidelity) I wanted it to happen because I was trying to die and I was trying to be X’d out and I wanted her to leave because I never felt worthy of her… She loves the part of me that I hate. I didn’t trust her because how can you love me and I don’t love me?
And I need to say this: infidelity is infidelity I don’t care if I was inside of a woman or not, wrong is wrong. …I did wrong. I sinned against the marriage…And I became the thing I hated. And do you know what it’s like to want to die every day? Picturing how to drive off a bridge to make it look like an accident so your wife can get the insurance money, so at least she can start over with somebody that’ll love her for real?
He continues:
Do know what it’s like to wait for your brothers in the ministry to come to your aid when you’re hurting and nobody shows up because their stuff is actually worse than the stuff you’re dealing with, but they don’t want anybody looking at them so they won’t come near you? Do you know what it’s like to feel nuclear and unworthy every day of your damn life and you got to stand in a pulpit and fight for other people to get to a heaven that you don’t think you’re worthy of?
Do you really know what it’s like to cry every night while your wife is asleep talking about, “I don’t know how to love her, I don’t know how to raise these kids, I don’t even know how to raise me, I don’t even know who I am.”
Gray starts making accusations:
And all you see is headlines from your favorite blogger, but then you in church waving your hands, but you just took in poison from about a broken man or a broken woman. And the only reason they have an audience and a financial platform is because y’all go to them. And the reason why you can’t clap is because you subscribe to them.
Before boasting on himself:
Because truthfully, when you win too much, people really start hating you. They only like you as long as they can hold on near you while you’re going up. But when you go too high, they really start hating you. When you’re sitting with Oprah, they really start hating you. When you pray over presidents, they really start hating you. And not just Trump. I prophesied to Biden too. Talked to Kamala too. I’m not just the cat that preaches on the weekends. I am anointed wherever I go.
Gray revels in more self-pity and projection at folks upset with him over his cheating, even though he only did it because he was a ‘broken.’
I ain’t a preacher, I’m a son. But it wasn’t enough for church folk because the truth is, church folk hate their own lives and they like to see a train wreck, and so they love to see their favorites fall, and they want to really secretly rejoice in it. But I’m glad that you thought it was over because my name is Lazarus and I am evidence of resurrection.
Then, then crude comments with a strange tongue movement.
Me and my wife in counseling every week for hours at a time, collectively and individually. I’m not gonna let the devil that killed my father and my uncles and my cousins get me. And I sure as hell ain’t gonna let him get my son. My son will be a better man than me.
He will be whole. He will be free. He will be a faithful husband that will not be unfaithful in his marriage verbally or sexually.
This woman is the only woman I’ve been inside of and when I’m thirsty I drink her. I stop tasting things that didn’t belong to me.
And there’s always gonna be a base nature in here. And I’m always gonna have to fight that fool. He’s not going away because he is me. And he was a survival tactic. Who I became was necessary to just survive.
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By his own admission this man clearly is not qualified to be in pastoral ministry.
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How filthy, no fruit of righteousness or repentance. . Not qualified to be a pastor. Needs to check himself to see if he’s really in the faith…
James White and Corey Mahler will be debating about this guy on May 15th. Mark your calendars.
I try not to be racist like Dave S, but…..but I have to admit that I cannot and do not take black theologians or preachers seriously because every example of them they seem to be bonkers heretical.
John Calvin would have perforated his tongue for this.